The role and duties of the MOTB, and other ways to include her in your special day
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You’re busy planning one of the biggest days of your life, when you realise, there aren’t actually many significant moments or roles just for your Mum, which seems odd, right? Traditionally in the UK, Dad’s get quite a few key moments…there’s the walking you down the aisle, giving you away, his name on the marriage schedule, the FOTB speech, father-daughter dance…but what about Mum?
A lot of these traditions are obviously a holdover from when marriage was an exchange of property, your father was literally handing you – his property – over to your future spouse. And whilst we’ve gladly moved a long way from the origin of these traditions, we perhaps haven’t done the best job of creating new, more inclusive ones.
We’re not saying these traditions need to be abolished, if your father is significant in your life then of course it still makes sense for him to participate in key moments of your big day. If you like some of the traditions or indeed all of them, keep them simply for the desire of having your Dad / father-figure involved, it doesn’t matter how they came into being. Though what we are here to say is that they are traditions, not rules, you can do things differently if you want to. YOU DO YOU!
Your Mum could of course take on the roles that historically would have been that of a father-figure, or indeed share them – they can BOTH walk you down the aisle (if it’s wide enough!), but if you want to maintain the traditional duties for your father, or even if you’d rather abolish any remnants of the idea you are someone’s property altogether, there’s still a whole host of meaningful ways to include your Mum (and Dad!).
In today’s YouTube video, we’ll highlight those traditional ways the MOTB is already included throughout the wedding planning process as well as on the day itself, just in case you’re worried you’ve missed something, before we dive in deep to those other ideas, all significant in meaning but vary from showy to subtle, so you can pick and choose based on her personality, your type of wedding and your relationship with her.
If you’re here looking for ideas on how to include a lost loved one in your wedding day, we’ve focussed on this in a separate video, which you can find here, we hope you’ll find it helpful: https://youtu.be/wX6CgVi-YJI
Which ideas do you like for your Mum? Is there anything else you’re doing that we didn’t mention? Drop them in the comments to help out our other readers!
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https://linktr.ee/bridesociety: How to include the Mother of the Bride in your Wedding— Rebecca and Laura, Bride Society.
